Do you sometimes feel that Life is a Circus and you are the Ring Master?
I recently wrote this guest post about my midlife circus for a lovely Australian blogger whom I met through a blogger friend of hers via a Pinterest group. Her name is Sue of “Sizzling Towards Sixty & Beyond“. My post went live on her site last week, so I am re-posting it here on my blog in case you missed my mention of it on my Facebook page.
Please also visit Sue’s blog for the original posting of my submission and to see what Sue has to offer – You will find great content on her site, she has been blogging for a few years now and has been a great help and inspiration to me. You can link to Sue’s blog HERE.
Midlife Circus Ring Master
It has been said that “Life is a Circus”. And my mother always used to say, “life is a merry-go-round, hang on or you’ll fall off”. After living under the big top of life for almost 58 years now, I find myself wanting to become reacquainted with who I am and to take things more lightly as I ease into this next phase of the three-ring circus – becoming a very new over-50 blogger wanting to exercise my writing skills has been a real eyeopener. After just 12 weeks into this new adventure, the circus analogy came to me for thoughts and reflections on my own little sideshow that may connect with you as well.
Circus Ring #1
In my teens and early twenties, I was the star of the show — the Opening Act, as novice Ring Master. Even though parts of it felt like being shot out of a cannon, the excitement of youth and a thriving career helped build necessary skills to juggle the balls and twirl all of the plates of what was yet to come. We had technology in the workplace but left it behind at the end of the day. Simpler, unplugged times where we connected with each other in person in a more tangible way.
Circus Ring #2
Marriage came in my late 20s, with children in my early 30s, the Main Event. We made the decision that I would be a full-time mother, boom! I had never done any babysitting and had zero experience with babies. But, I joyfully transferred my work ethic into on-the-job training for motherhood. When our first daughter was born, it was a scary high-flying trapeze and walking a tightrope with full focus to make sure I did all of the right things — with no safety net, I wanted to figure it out on my own. I gradually gained my balance, but I missed my career, A LOT. There were a few small creative businesses that filled that void for a while then eventually ran their course.
Circus Ring #3
In the blink of an eye, the big brass band from the Main Event kept marching along until one day the tuba tooted its last note and the girls became adults and started their own lives. While simultaneously being impacted by the loss of dear parents, friends and beloved pets, I quickly realized that Tim and I were approaching the Grand Finale. Not in the sense of our final performance, LOL, but, in the sense that this is the biggest show of all where we still have a few more acts ahead of us!
Tim is still working and wants to put in his maximum time for retirement. I have chosen blogging as a creative mental engagement and writing outlet to connect with other 50-somethings who may have things in common with what I feel and describe. I also feel the need to stay current with technology and don’t want to feel like I am struggling to understand it or am falling behind in some way. Becoming a published author is also woven into all of this as well, in its own timing, a bucket list item.
The blogging learning curve was, and still is, steep at times for me. A different type of technology and language that I expected to click more quickly than it did. My blog is based on reinventing ourselves over 50. I realized that I could not re-create myself, so I had to reinvent what and who I wanted to be now, another Novice Ring Master. I offer frugal, wearable fashion and lifestyle inspiration that can suit the majority of body types and personalities who are looking for something refreshing and updated. “Find Your Flair, Be You” is my theme.
The Social Media Circus
Taking a high dive leap of faith, I dove headfirst into the world of blogging. Being discovered as a blogger online means offering helpful quality content that readers want and enjoy. Exposing the blog to gain these readers meant that my blog needed to engage with social media platforms. Quickly discovering that social media can be a circus all on its own, I put on my tall man stilts to view these arenas from a distance, trying to keep it in perspective.
There is kind of a noisy freak show happening online. Averting my eyes and sifting down to the useful things that don’t suck me into the elephant’s trunk have been useful, enjoyable and helpful.
Social media has also shown me how others choose to announce and express midlife. There are roars from the crowd shouting “rebellion”, “fierce”, “unshackled”, “warrior” and other phrases relative to being a female entering life over 50. If this works for some and it feels good, wonderful!
As for myself, I am more of a steady drive trying to keep it between the lines without too many clowns jumping out of the car at one time, LOL!
How is your circus going? I would love to hear about it, leave a comment!
I recently wrote another post about midlife that you may find of interest HERE.
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