I have decided that it is more important to share something with you today than to post my most recent fashion photos. That will have to be posted on Wednesday. I will be escaping the house this morning for some sunshine and activity – sometimes the walls want to close in just a little bit too much. The Cloak is visiting me.
The Cloak of Darkness
I woke up wearing an invisible accessory piece that is just not my style. Unfortunately, it cannot be returned to the This-is-Life Boutique. The Cloak of Darkness is all sales final, so it is up to me to figure out what to do with it. I know that buying into life comes with the highs and lows, good and bad, fun and sad, it is all just part of the whole deal. I am not talking about full-blown depression, if any of us get to that point, please seek professional help. This is an “episode” and something that does not last for very long, but the kicker is that it sneaks up on you and grabs on when you least expect it.
I am not here to dump on anyone, just sharing what I think many of us over 50 probably have in common and deal with every once in a while. Yup, I woke up with what I call the “funk” – that heavy, sad feeling that I now have to shake off. Probably a combination of hormonal swings and sentimental feelings about this past weekend being Father’s Day, plus we also had to move Tim’s mom over to the memory care section of her lovely assisted living residence. For me, this part of life carries changes, loss and memories that I have to work through and keep in perspective to feel positive and happy. I will NOT let the cloak completely envelop and smother me.
How I Shed the Cloak
My personal remedy for shedding this cloak is to first recognize it and tell myself, “that’s it, get up, get dressed, get out and get with it!” When I am put together and dressed for the day, I instantly feel better. I enjoy cooking, so I am making a small list of grocery items that I need to make something new and outside of the basic ho-hum meals. I do not take on big projects when I am feeling like this. I have tried that and I end up having a heavier overworked feeling. Instead, I will do some easy home cleaning and organizing to feel productive and keep a calm environment that doesn’t feel cluttered and distracting. Creative, engaging activities also help me break through these feelings and bring a fresh light onto things in general. Writing, reading, cooking, watering and tending to my little gardens, or calling a friend for a quick chat also helps shake off the darkness.
It has been said that you can feel lonely in a room full of people, which is similar to this cloak of mine. So, working through it on my own, at my own pace through activities that I enjoy usually works. I will have the cloak balled up and tossed away by the end of the day, that is for certain, I will not be defeated!
What About You?
Do you also have these feelings more now that you are over 50? What type of self-help things do you do that help you drop the cloak?
I would love to hear from you. The friends I have made through this blog encourage and uplift me, I look forward to your comments!